Twenty Somethings

My twenty-fifth birthday is approaching! 

 It is officially one week away from today, and it’s bitter sweet. On one hand I’m excited, and on the other, I’m like, “alright now girly, you’re getting real close to thirty, let’s slow our roll,” … but all in all, I do feel extremely blessed to be turning twenty-five, and I have learned A LOT these past five years of my “20 somethings.” Some of which I would love to share with you. So let’s get into it!

When I was eighteen, I got the words “Love Yourself First” tattooed, but it wasn’t until more recently, I discovered and understood the power and the importance of that statement. I spent entirely too much time not properly “loving myself,” and it showed. I hadn’t taken the time needed to learn and love myself. My time was spent trying to “prove” myself worthy enough to meet the expectations of others. Ultimately, putting their feelings, emotions, and opinions above those of my own. I had to learn that people are only going to love and respect you at the capacity in which you love and respect yourself — You Set The Bar!

Unfortunately, at that time my bar was low, but thank God I found my way back to Him and learned what “love” truly looked like. I had to learn how to properly give that same love to myself., and in addition to that, I also had to learn that I am not in control. The only person I can control is myself, and even then, y’all know it can be a struggle trying to control ourselves . . . so we definitely do not have the time or the energy to be attempting to control the next person. My need for control was demonstrated through my need for understanding “why” people did the things they did. In my head, if I knew why, I could change them or somehow influence the outcome. It never worked — lol.

I have learned a great deal of lessons through every experience, and I am still learning with every day that comes, but don’t worry, I plan to share them all with you, as we continue on this journey of self discovery.